COURAGEOUS PARENTING

Transform your relationship with your daughter and navigate the challenges of parenting in the 21st Century with confidence.

Whether you’re heading into the turbulent teen years with your daughter, or already right in the thick of it, this time can feel scary, frustrating and out of your control. 

Courageous Parenting has been developed to help you understand your daughter’s emotions, behaviours and (lack of!) communication, to bring back connection, lightness and trust to your relationship.

“These ladies know what they’re doing. Youth Expert Tanya Meessmann and Neuroscientist and Counsellor Dr Diane Harner have joined forces to change the way parents who are raising daughters in the 21st Century are supported. 

By combining NEUROSCIENCE, PSYCHOLOGY and REAL-WORLD INSIGHTS (with their outstanding senses of humour and no-BS approach to telling it like it is…!) they have created one of the most powerful parenting programs you will learn from, ever.”

Chances are you’ve been seeing some changes in your daughter of late: pulling away, reduced confidence, increased defiance. Just getting through each day together is getting harder and harder, for both of you. 

As frustrating and draining as this can feel, there are a lot of factors contributing to these changes in behaviour that are out of your control: 

PHYSICALLY

Body, hormonal and brain changes.

MENTALLY

Seeking independence, risk-taking behaviour.

SOCIALLY

Changing social landscapes and expectations.

EMOTIONALLY

Mood highs and lows (often unexplainable!)

DIGITALLY

Overwhelming and all-consuming online experiences , 24/7

Developing a robust understanding of these aspects of your daughter’s life moves you from powerless spectator to empowered guide

“I have two girls, one in grade 6 and one in grade 7 and life felt really hard. We felt like we were going backwards as parents, as opposed to forward and everywhere I looked I couldn’t find anything that I felt was ever going to help.” Alissa, mother of 11 & 12 year old girls

Feel like you’re losing her…

It might feel as though your little girl doesn’t seem to need you in the same way that she did. Perhaps the fear of losing her starts creeping in, which is significant, because as a parent your instinct is to protect and to nurture. If there are barriers starting to go up, it’s can be terrifying as it reduces how much you can protect her and influence her in a positive way.

Aren’t sure you’re doing the right things, making the right choices. 

No one has given you a handbook to navigate raising your daughter in the 21st Century. You’re being challenged to keep developing and evolving your own parental approaches and strategies as your daughter grows and evolves as well.

This is a landscape that no previous generation of parents has had to navigate before.

Feeling out of your depth – nothing works!

You’re simultaneously trying to deal with your own life challenges, understand your own thoughts and opinions on aspects of today’s world such as social media, academic expectations and how to prepare your daughter for the best future she can possibly have, when you don’t even know what that future’s going to look like.

And often overwhelming. 

It’s hard to feel good about yourself as a parent when it feels as though so many of the things that you’re doing are wrong or having no effect or impact.

If your connection with your daughter seems to be fragile or thinning, it’s easy to feel as though you’re flying blind and it’s hard to catch your breath, or a break.

Alissa (10 & 12 year olds)

“Life felt really hard. We felt like we were going backwards as parents as opposed to forwards.”

Rob (8 & 10 year olds)

“This program allowed us to come together to talk and share important ideas. We’re building a young woman.”

Melanie (14 year old)

“I want to be as good as possible a parent for her through her teenage years. Your child is only young once.”

MOVE FROM POWERLESS SPECTATOR TO EMPOWERED GUIDE.

Discover a parenting approach that reduces the constant tension and helps you support your daughter without driving her away. 

Graduates from our Courageous Parenting Program have told us they come away feeling:

“The program gave me a deeper recognition of my role as, not so much my daughters’ disciplinarian, but the caretaker of their own identity.  And an important reminder to myself that: they’re not me.” – Melissa, parent of 12 and 14 year old daughters

Tanya (12 year old)

“I was unsure about how to teach my daughter to be courageous and confident when I’m still working on that myself.”

Amy & Rich (8 & 10 year olds)

“I’m trying to get my head around what’s going on in her head when you see that explosive reaction coming…”

Chris (10 year old)

“I was struggling and labelled myself as a really bad parent.  Now I know how to manage things in a constructive, kind way.”

“Doing this program at the stage we’re at as a family has been really good because it’s given us skills to develop and use now, and also down the track.” – Rich, parent of 9 and 12 year old girls

The Courageous Parenting Program is a 9-week online coaching program that provides a blend of neuroscience, psychology and real-world insights to empower parents as they navigate the (often bumpy!) tween and teen years.

WHO IS THIS PROGRAM FOR?

YOU WANT TO BE READY FOR WHAT'S COMING

Generally parents of 8-11 year olds who know that the 'teen years' are around the corner and want to get prepared to support their daughter through them.

YOU'RE ALREADY STARTING TO FEEL DISCONNECTION

Your 12-14 year old daughter is heading into the thick of the 'Identity Phase' so she's pulling away, emotions are running high and you can 'do nothing right!'

YOU NEED HELP ENFORCING BOUNDARIES AND MAINTAINING YOUR BOND

For parents of 15-18 year olds you may be experiencing defiance, push-back, communication breakdown or low confidence issues.

KEY TOPICS TAUGHT IN THE 8-MODULE PROGRAM:

Understanding how to emotionally manage disconnection between yourself and your daughter during the 'Identity Phase'

Your triggers and boundaries, why she seems determined to push your buttons, and what to do when she does

Your daughter's brain development during this critical period of her youth and how you can help shape it

Specific challenges when parenting in the 21st Century (Social media, bullying, information overload)

The role failure, rejection, judgement and the unknown plays in eroding her confidence

Who and what is influencing your daughter (and what to do about it)

How to help her manage toxic friendships

Supporting her through negative thinking

Defiance and disobedient behaviour, what what she's trying to achieve, and how to hold your ground

How your perception of confidence differs from her (and why that matters)

... and SO MUCH more!

WHAT PARENTS ARE SAYING

IMMEDIATE AND LIFETIME ACCESS TO CRITICAL INFORMATION THAT WILL SHAPE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

The key to the success of Courageous Parenting lies in the unique and effective blend of neuroscience, psychology and real world experiences provided by youth expert Tanya Meessmann and neuroscientist and counsellor Dr Diane Harner.

The course content has been strategically curated to build onto one module of learning from the next. This ensures parents participating build foundational knowledge and understanding as they layer insights which lead to improved outcomes that can be immediately applied to every day life.

TANYA MEESSMANN & DR DIANE HARNER

As founder of Girl Shaped Flames, Tanya has worked with over 3500 teenage girls, their parents and educators to develop their confidence, resilience and self-belief. Through this work she’s been recognised as a thought-leader in the confidence space and is often found working with full school cohorts and speaking at corporate events on the life-changing effect confidence has on girls.

Diane has a PhD in neuroscience and has been applying brain science to decode our thinking and behaviour for the past 15 years as an adolescent counsellor. She has worked with adults and children from all walks of life to empower performance, build resilience and confidence and enhance self-awareness and emotional regulation.

Comprehensive, Expert Information

The course content steps parents through 8 key modules that are balanced between behavioural insights, neurological influences and real-world examples.

Across over 50 short videos, worksheets and written summaries, Tanya and Di explain in detail critical concepts that are affecting your daughter's confidence, self-worth and behaviour.

The course contents are also available on a handy 'app' so you can sneak those videos in during school pick-up wait-times and appointments!

Lifetime Access

And.... the every critical lifetime access!

Access to the course contents spans well beyond the day we say goodbye after 9 enriching weeks together. And this has been intentional.

What you learn now will have relevance for MANY years to come, and can be revisited when you face new obstacles, or need a refresher on long-standing ones.

** EXCLUSIVE FOR LIVE COACHING PARTICIPANTS **
Additional resources for your relationship

Second only to concerns about their daughter's confidence, 'communication' is the second most highlighted area of distress that parents discuss with us.

We do dedicate an entire module to the topic, however we also wanted to provide you with a resource that has been designed for both your daughter and yourself to utilise to get conversation flowing on some (often tricky) topics through our 10 Module Connection Kit.

“I feel that as a parent my confidence has been reinforced by the content, especially the neuroscience.  I have a clearer understanding where my daughter is developmentally, and to also know that I’m not alone feeling like this.” Melanie, parent of a 14 year old girl.

We’re not going to lie, we get through a LOT in 8 modules! But as you’ll hear from our past participants, the videos are quick and easy (knock each module over in less than 2 hours a week), the worksheets clear and the written summaries a sweet relief.

Here’s a bit more about the concepts we explore throughout the Courageous Parenting Program:

MODULE 1: UNDERSTANDING YOUR PARENTING INFLUENCES​

Courageous parenting starts with you. Your own childhood influences have shaped how you parent, decisions you make and belief systems that drive your instincts. We look at reactive Vs perceptive parenting and help you develop a comprehensive understanding of your own triggers and blocks.

MODULE 2: MEETING YOUR DAUGHTER WHERE SHE IS​

Every girl is unique – individual among her friends and (surprisingly!) not just a younger version of you. To truly be able to raise her to be confident, resilient and empowered, it’s critical to understand her as the person she is today including her fears, motivations, values and influences.

MODULE 3: COMMUNICATION AND CONNECTION​

All strong and effective bonds are based upon good communication. Your daughter relies upon that bond to provide her with safety and security which in turn builds her confidence and self-belief. Navigating communication with young girls is one of the most challenging aspects of parenting! 

MODULE 4: UNPACKING WHAT CONFIDENCE IS TO EACH OF YOU​

Confidence is different for everyone: what makes you feel confident, how you express it and why it is important to you are unique and personal. It’s important for you to understand your own perspective on confidence and allow your daughter the space to develop hers.

MODULE 5: UNDERSTANDING WHAT'S COMPROMISING YOUR DAUGHTER'S CONFIDENCE

The challenges that your daughter is navigating are more complicated than just “school”, “friendships” or “body issues”. She’s in a phase of her life where expectations are high, senses are heightened and life is unpredictable, creating many fears across failure, the unknown, judgement and rejection.

MODULE 6: CONFIDENCE IN ACTION - FOR YOUR DAUGHTER​

Now it’s time to translate what you have learned so far into simple and practical activities, tools and strategies that your daughter can engage in to incrementally grow her confidence with you by her side.

MODULE 7: CONFIDENCE IN ACTION - FOR YOU, HER PARENT​

And now it’s your turn! What you do next is going to have a significant impact. We will help you to understand the role that you play as your daughter develops her confidence, a role that is supportive and encouraging yet not coercive or overwhelming, and is ultimately the embodiment of courageous parenting.

MODULE 8: SPECIAL ISSUES

We finish strong, diving deeper into the most comment issues including; defiant and disrespectful behaviour, friendship challenges and negative thinking.

“I don’t have time”

The Courageous Parenting Interactive Program takes less than 2 hours a week to complete and is divided up into bite sized chunks so you can learn something in the time it takes to have a cup of coffee.  

Chances are, if you add up the minutes you spend each week worrying about your daughter, trying to connect with her and navigating tricky teen-girl waters you’ll find 2 hours pretty quickly!

“It’s probably not going to work with MY daughter”

Every parent, daughter and relationship is different, with unique influencing factors and histories. This comprehensive program has been specifically designed to teach you critical fundamentals that are designed to be applicable to a wide range of situations including early fractures in her confidence, or your relationship, through to more extensive issues around anxiety and constant arguments.

“Is my daughter too young?

It’s never too early to start!  Studies show that girls’ confidence can start deteriorating from as young as 8 years old, so the work you put in now prepares her to face the challenges that will come with the introduction of high school. 

That said, we’d suggest that the course is most relevant for parents raising children 8 years old and above.  For younger children we recommend continuing to offer play and co-regulation strategies to help them grow.

“Is my daughter too old?”

The strategies taught throughout the program can be applied during any stage of life, however our greatest opportunity to support them is when they are still at home and we can role model behaviours and provide the environment for growth.

“Can’t I just google this?”

There is a LOT of fantastic parenting information out there. But, like most, you’ve no doubt felt that wall of overwhelm when you head down the ‘how do I build my daughter’s confidence’ rabbit hole.

To save you time and frustration we have curated the best and most relevant information to support you and your daughter as you navigate the teen years. We have reflected on our own parenting experience and drawn on the experience of our parenting network, spoken to thousands of tween and teen girls to hear their challenges and then combined this knowledge to bring you what you need in simple practical tools and strategies that you can implement immediately.

This is not just about consuming content: this is about reflection, sharing and understanding yourself and your daughter to become the best versions of yourselves.

The journey you are on with your daughter is multifaceted. While she is certainly your focus, your confidence, your calm, and your enjoyment of this period of her life is also important and valuable.  

In addition to this, as you’ll hear Di and Tanya refer to time and time again during the program: you need to Protect The Relationship. A strong bond, mutual respect and healthy communication are key to keeping that connection between the two of you, so she knows where to turn when she needs her biggest cheerleader. 

“I know for me personally, and for us, this program has made a massive difference.  I think there’s nothing else that would have given me that confidence.  I’m eternally grateful for the fact that we had the opportunity to be a part of it.” Alissa, mother of 11 & 12 year olds

This is what you get when you register for Courageous Parenting:

✔️ 24/7 access to the full Courageous Parenting Program and portal that takes you through all the strategies and tactics that you can turn to when navigating both your and your daughter’s confidence challenges.

✔️ Eight Modules including 50+ ‘coffee-length’ videos that walk you through immediately applicable strategies, tools and approaches to put into action with your daughter

✔️ Real-world-inspired Worksheets that provide you the opportunity to apply your learnings and embed critical knowledge

✔️ Module summaries for those of you who prefer to skim-read and scribble notes as you go!

✔️ Lifetime access to refer back to the content again and again as your daughter develops into the amazing young woman she is destined to become!

Additionally in our twice-yearly 9-week Full Interactive Coaching Program: 

✔️ Weekly live group video coaching calls
with Di and myself to talk through each module and hear from other parents about their experiences (and the recorded replays)

✔️ Lifetime membership of our private and confidential Courageous Parenting FB Community, in which Di and I are actively supporting parents every day throughout the 9 week program with their specific issues or challenges as they apply the information to real life

Plus ADDITIONAL support resources for you and your daughter:

✔️ 3 x 1 hr ‘Fan Your Flames’ group coaching sessions with Tanya (valued at $180)

✔️ Girl Shaped Flames Connection Kit – a 10 module resource providing conversation starter kick-offs and content for you to build your connection with your daughter (valued at $145)

✔️ 12 months unlimited access to Shine From Within’s Online Academy – featuring live virtual workshops for your daughter hosted by youth mentors from around the world (valued at $250)

Chris (10 year old)

“When you look at what you’re getting, I would do it again in a heartbeat. So worth it!”

Leah (11, 14 & 16 year olds)

“If I cannot spend this money on my own relationship and kids, what am I doing? This has got to be more important than anything else I do.”

Tanya (12 year old)

“It was the best investment I could make to give me the confidence, to teach my daughter to be confident and courageous, and to me that’s invaluable.”

START MAKING A DIFFERENCE TODAY, THEN JOIN US *LIVE* in 2022

IMMEDIATE ACCESS

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AU$ 497 ONE-OFF PAYMENT
  • Save 20% when paying in full
  • LIFETIME ACCESS
  • 14 DAY MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE
  • Early bird access to 2022 Live Coaching Program (please note this incurs an additional cost)
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MONTHLY

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AU$ 197 PER MONTH FOR 3 MONTHS
  • Spread out the cost
  • LIFETIME ACCESS
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  • Early bird access to 2022 Live Coaching Program (please note this incurs an additional cost)​

COACHING PROGRAM

Next cohort in 2022
AU$ 1297 ONE-OFF PAYMENT
  • Participation in March 2022 9-week Live Coaching Program
  • Bonus 3 x Fan Your Flames Group Coaching Sessions for your daughter
  • LIFETIME ACCESS
  • 14 DAY MONEY-BACK GUARANTEE
UPGRADE

Yes!  The entire course is delivered online, which can be accessed through an App or Desktop.

We’d recommend finding approximately 2 hours of per week to watch all of the training videos, complete the readings and do the worksheets.

The program content is designed for parents only, however you will be provided with activities and suggestions to undertake with your daughter in your own time. 

Some past participants have also chosen to share specific module videos with their daughter to help her better understand her own brain, behaviour and emotions. 

The next 9-Week Coaching Program is scheduled for March 2022, but you can start TODAY with our immediate access or monthly content-only access. 

Yes! We have a 14 Day Refund policy, which means you can do the first 2 modules and if you find that this is not what you signed up for and you can prove you’ve done all the work, we’ll gladly refund your money, less a $150 administration fee.  In order to receive a refund, you will need to submit proof of completing the work and your worksheets within this 14 day period for our assessment.  Once this 14 day period has passed, there will be no refunds issued.  The 14 Day period begins when Module 1 is released, so even if you start making payments in advanced with one of our extended payment plans, you will still be able to receive a full refund, minus the AUD$150 administration fee, up to 14 days into the course content.

If you haven’t found an answer to your question in the FAQs above or on this page, please email us directly on [email protected].