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Girl Now: New Year, Same Me?

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Girl Now: New Year, Same Me?

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Hi, I’m Holly. In 2019 I am going to be a grade 12 student and I want to spend my final year of school focussing on the ‘now’ whilst still preparing for the future. Over my time at high school (from 2015, when I was a little grade 8) I have had so many adults ask me “What are you going to do after school?” and “What do you want to do in the future? You know, for a career?” This nagging has become constant and I find that we get caught up in worrying about what we are going to do after school that we forget to live in the moment. I find that this state of worry drags us away from living in the present and being able to enjoy everything life has to offer.

This is the ultimately the starting point for this blog; a reminder to live in the present whilst still preparing for what may come.

On that note: let’s live now, learn now, Girl Now.[/vc_column_text][mk_divider style=”thin_solid” divider_width=”custom_width” custom_width=”507″ thin_single_color=”#000000″][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1546900730947{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]

January: New Year, Same Me?

January: the first month of the year, the time where everyone is setting their yearly resolutions (that will most likely be broken before the month is up!!), planning for the year ahead but for everyone still in school, it’s our last month of holidays. The final four weeks for us to go on adventures with friends, relax and most importantly watch all those tv shows we missed throughout the year as a result of school.

Throughout January, all over social media (almost anywhere we look), there is promotion of the new person that we become with the start of a new year. Well, I say that even though it’s a new year, can’t I be the same me? [/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space height=”12px”][mk_image src=”https://girlshapedflames.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/newyear-same-me-copy.png” image_size=”medium” align=”center”][vc_empty_space height=”12px”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1546764369500{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]

There’s no need to change the awesome, courageous and fiery girls that we are because some Instagram caption says ‘New year, New me.’ Ok, maybe the new year could bring a way to procrastinate less but that isn’t something revolutionary and in the end, I’m still the same person who made it through 2018 with a smile on my face and with great people surrounding me.

I want to spend these last few weeks of holidays soaking up the feeling of having no assessment deadlines, sleeping in, relaxing and spending time with my family. I don’t want to spend the start of a new year worrying about how I am going to become the new and improved me. [/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space height=”12px”][mk_image src=”https://girlshapedflames.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/img_9833.jpg” image_size=”medium” align=”center”][vc_empty_space height=”12px”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1546764402355{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]Why is it that everyone gets wrapped up in planning and changing themselves as a person? I believe that it all comes back to a desire to be ultra prepared for anything that future may hold. Everyone wants to plan for the year and revolutionise themselves to ensure they are as equipped as possible to handle anything that comes their way. The thing is though, that no matter what’s thrown at us, we are still going to be the same person we are now and why not spend time embracing and connecting to the young women we are now instead of planning for what’s to come?[/vc_column_text][vc_empty_space height=”12px”][mk_image src=”https://girlshapedflames.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/hagrid2-1.jpg” image_size=”medium” align=”center”][vc_column_text css=”.vc_custom_1546764414653{margin-bottom: 0px !important;}”]Not only should we not spend time changing ourselves, but there is also no need to worry about the coming months. Hagrid, the half giant from J.K. Rowling’s Harry Potter says “What’s comin’ will come, an’ we’ll meet it when it does,” and this pretty much sums up exactly how I want to look at the coming months as I enjoy my last few weeks of holidays.

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